The Self–Love Solution

Letting go of insecurities and low self-worth

At the heart of your binge eating is a painful relationship with yourself.

How do you feel when you manager gives you ‘constructive criticism’ or when you have had an argument with your partner/friend, or after you have shouted at your kid(s)?

All of these events can trigger within you deep feelings of insecurities and you end up feeling like you have failed as a parent/colleague/friend/partner, or that you are not enough. These painful feelings about yourself can become so unbearable you then turn to food to ‘stuff’ down these feelings, to block them out.

All addictive behaviours, including binge-eating has at its core the desire to escape from uncomfortable feelings, and this comes from having a painful relationship with ourself. When we are in thick of our insecurities we believe we are  ‘not enough’, unworthy, a failure, someone who can’t cope or feels overwhelmed, or fears rejection/exclusion. We believe this is who I am and we get stuck there - as we spiral into self-loathing, shame and guilt, fuelling our emotional eating.  

How can you heal your painful relationship with yourself? 

To authentically heal from your binge-eating you need to heal your relationship with yourself by learning let go of painful and limited ways of relating to yourself. Without this inner work, you cannot heal from your emotional eating.

As you learn to develop authentic self-love, there are some of the key life changing insights you will gain that will begin to heal your relationship with yourself:

1. You will realise that you are not your feelings or thoughts

Painful thoughts and feelings that arise in your mind don’t have to define who you are as a person. You will develop a special emotional resilience that will allow you to witness feelings and thoughts as they arise and dissolve within the inner space of your mind without getting trapped by them.

2. You will understand the power of your mind

You will practically come to understand the power of your mind to create your sense of self at given moment in time. You are who you think you are, at any given moment in time. Change your mind, you change you sense of self.

3. You will let go of the self that doesn’t serve you

You will learn how to release painful versions of yourself, and actively sculpt and bring into existence a more positive and empowering sense of self.

4. You will be kinder to yourself

You will learn how to be kind to yourself and let go of your tendencies for being hard and critical with yourself.

5. You will start to believe in yourself

You will retrain your mind so that you become free from feelings of ‘not being enough’ or feeling like you are always ‘lacking’, and learn to enjoy a sense of self that is full of possibility and joy.

6. You will start to see a vision of a happy life

You will start to develop authentic self-love and self-confidence as you start to create a vision for yourself beyond your perceived limitation: A full life, beyond your binge eating habits.